“By journeying through the Good Girl Myths and becoming more you, you will naturally case a ripple, a riot, a revolution within. You will come alive. You will create the radically new. You will bring about what the world needs instead of the good girl the world thinks it wants. And if that feels overwhelming, remember that you’re not alone. You’re weaving one vital thread in a larger tapestry of millions. We need all hands on deck.”
Majo Molfino
We, as women, are intuitive beings and creative forces. Many of us are taught that we need to cover our bodies from a young age not to tempt men. We are also asked to be “good wives, daughters, sisters.” We get scolded for using our voice and speaking our truth. Our bigger questions are volleyed back at us with “you must have faith, or I said so.” There is deep shame attached to truth-telling when it goes against the culture. We have learned that we have more in common at the birthplace of our struggles and traumas than in any other place. We curate content that shows our good side, our perfectness, our success. And that’s honestly fine as long as we allow ourselves a platform, to tell the truth, and share the stories of our struggle and growth.
We share our personal struggle to maintain the good girl image and how we each found our power when we let our wild, unapologetic voices be heard. It’s terrifying to throw caution to the wind, to shout truth into a wind storm that drowns our voices. We have both found freedom that elevates us at the level of our soul. It was the gift that being courageous gave back to us in perpetuity. Honesty and storytelling are the foundation for healing and growth. We realized that healing is as simple as shifting a perspective. You can do that by questioning everything. When you ask better questions, your soul starts churning, and it spits out new ideas and ways to perceive the world. We will leave you with some of the questions we ask ourselves when we are stuck in a limiting belief.
Is this true?
Who am I without being influenced?
What do I get to claim as my own?
How can I heal through this?
What are the gifts hiding inside this trauma?
What do I want my future to look like?
What do I dream for myself?
How can I see this situation differently?
What are the gifts I offer the world?
We are working on our own, deprogramming from a culture that has held us back from speaking our truth. We would love to hear about your journey and insights if this is something you are working on.
Today’s episode is one of the most influential and important conversations we’ve had regarding systematic, cultural, and religious patriarchy, and how as women and men, we unconsciously perpetuate it. Breaking down the five myths and understanding how we all embody aspects of the good girl brings such a critical awareness to the suppression we have all learned to live within varying degrees. Majo has created this beautiful body of work that should be required reading. Her book is full of tools and questionnaires that will help you discover your blind spots and bring awareness to the aspects of healing that will be the most beneficial for you and those in your life.
Myth of Rules
Myth of perfection
Myth of logic
Myth of Harmony
Myth of sacrifice
Tune in as we share our thoughts on how we are shifting this in our own lives, the breakthroughs we’ve both had, and the healing that feels so possible! Majo includes a test in her book to help you identify the myths that run the deepest in your unconscious. Once you know, you can begin the work of reprogramming how you respond and show up in life.
You can find Majo + her book break the good girl myth here
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